NO MORE EXCUSES – Becoming a Fearless Woman

If you’re on this page there is only one reason why you are here: burning curiosity about what it takes to become a Fearless Woman.

Do you catch yourself telling the same old stories about why you can’t do something? There’s not enough money, not enough relationship, my health isn’t good, I’m too old, too fat, too tired. I used to dream about a future that was better, but that was then, and this is reality. I can’t have it. I’m not capable, I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough, I’m not qualified, I’m not creative, I’m not, I’m not, I’m not. Is that the yadda yadda of your life?

If so, you’re not alone. 99.9% of us have that conversation almost daily.

You want to know how to eliminate the pain of bad choices that has been plaguing your life, or you want to know how to make better choices.

Oh, before I forget, … There’s no such thing as being Fearless.

There are only the decisions we all make to show up to it.

You see life is all about choices.

I’ll give you an example from my own life. I’ve been married for 27 years and counting but it hasn’t always been easy. Several years ago I was ready to divorce my husband. I blamed him for all kinds of things, and I blamed him for creating the life we were living. It was all his fault.

Until then, I’d always been good at blaming other people, blaming circumstances and blaming the past for the present predicament. I was ready to walk out on the marriage because I blamed him for creating the limitations in our life. We were constantly fighting about money, about where to live, and how to live. I wanted one thing, he wanted another. And then one day, in the midst of a huge fight, he said something quite profound that I had not heard before.

He said “You made the choice to be with me!”

For some reason, that phrase slammed home. For the first time in my life (and I was about 38 at the time) I truly understood that we all make choices about where we want to be in life. I had made my choice to be with him and whatever unhappiness I was experiencing, it was my choice.

Choices are what dominate whether we have a good life, a bad life or an okay life. We make decisions that seem right for the moment, and frequently, there is an element of regret around the choices. We wish we had thought about it more, had taken more time to consider all the aspects, and had known what we know now.

Did you ever hear the song No Regrets by Edith Piaf. She was known as ‘Sparrow; because she was 4 feet something, a national icon in France she captured the hearts of millions of people all over the world with her voice. Her life was a tragedy of bad marriages, bad decisions and eventually alcoholism and morphine addiction that killed her. She made the wrong choices. Did she have regrets? You bet she did. So did Judy Garland and Billie Holiday. The world stage is strewn with people who made bad choices that affected their lives. And there’s a simple reason for that.